Today’s sermon topic is Family (or Domestic) Violence. Yet in order to do combat this scourge on our society, we first need to identify Domestic Violence (DV), so that one can one know whether they are in a DV situation or not? A good definition is:
Domestic and family violence is violent, abusive or intimidating behaviour in a relationship.
Now this of course includes physical violence; but extends to so much more. DV includes things like emotional abuse, financial abuse, spiritual abuse and sexual abuse. Since DV is purposefully subjective in it’s definition, it is sometimes hard for someone to identify whether they’re relationship is abusive or not. Some helpful questions to ask are:
- Does your spouse ask for your opinion, and encourage your input?
- Is your spouse your biggest fan, who is there to love and support you?
- Do you find yourself carefully managing things, because it isn’t safe when your spouse gets stressed?
- Does your spouse call you names, belittle you in front of others, or play mind games?
- Does your spouse control your spending, your friendship circle, or your body?
The fact is, if you are being physically assaulted, insulted, have no say in financial planning or spending, suffer consequences when you disagree, are harshly criticised, or often blamed for family problems, then you are suffering abuse.
If this is you, please know our church understands how terrifying and difficult your situation is, and we are here to help in any way we can. Alternatively you can call the domestic violence Help Line on 1800 737 732 (1800 Respect).
